Monday, October 31, 2005


There was a small incident that occurred in The Sports Bar last night. For those who only want to read upbeat and positive news about the Dominican Republic PLEASE (!) turn away now.

There seemed to be a little discrepancy between a patron in The Sports Bar, and one of the buggarons. No one knows what started the dispute, but the the bottom line is that it was some commotion over money. Now, the reason I bring it up was because it occurred at/in front of the bar and David was asked to intercede. Well, first of all, the dispute has seemed to have its roots in something that happened in the past, but more importantly it had nothing to do with David, or anything that happened in his bar.

I think that this could be a lesson for those who visit and like to "mess around" with the buggarons. Sometimes problems occur, but it is all in how you handle it. Being in the lodging business I have had to deal with these situations several times. When I first moved here I assumed (stupidly) that if a tourist came to me with a story about being taken advantage of by one of the buggarons that their word was gospel. Not to be questioned. Well, I have since changed my mind. I don't get involved. It is NOT my problem. I was not a part of the negotiations, and therefore I don't know who is telling the truth. Secondly, and I know some will find this hard to believe, but some tourists lie. I didn't want to say it, but there you have it.

Now this is not to say that the incident that happened last night had anything at all to do with the tourist lying. What I do know is that David went outside to help and ending up getting drawn into some bullshit. These tourists will be back on a plane shortly going about their lives, while David will have to remain here with a new potential enemy. And why? Because there are tourists who thinks that our job is to be the police force and tell people (mostly buggarons) what they can and cannot do. As I said many blog entries ago, I have seen everything here, TWICE. If I have a client that has some problem with someone they brought home I will go and assess the situation. Sometimes it can be handled very calmly and quickly, other times both sides are non-yielding and won't budge from their positions. I then remove myself and tell them the only other thing to do is to let the police handle the matter. If you have a dispute involving 2 people here, BOTH (!!) parties are taken to the police station so that the matter can be resolved there, or before a judge. Either way it is a process that is not pleasant, AND the buggarons know this. Also, remember that prostitution here is illegal and you are subject to the laws of the Dominican Republic as long as you are here. The embassies will not get involved with any such trivial matters.

What I try to do with tourists that arrive is to tell them what I know. How they should behave and act. Who they might want to stay away from. I tell them how things are done, then they are on their own. If I tell you that so-and-so is a thief and you go with him and he robs you, whose fault is that? This is one of the reasons that I want to use this blog as a way to report some of the guys who are a problem.

Just thought it was something that you should know. Santo Domingo is like any other big city in the world, it has good and bad points. For the Gay traveler the good outweighs the bad, but I think knowledge is always key.

So, how did this story end? The cops came and he paid him the money.

Okay, that is all for today's lesson.


Anonymous said...

A good lesson and advise well received. Thanks for giving to us straight. Your blog (and you!) is a breath of fresh air.

Anonymous said...

Anthony, thanks for bringing this story to the forefront as one example of "ignorant" (lacking in knowledge or training)tourist, not necessarily stupid but on occassion that too. I have been fortunate to have been afforded the opportunity to travel extensively and I have found some people bring an air of arrogance( a feeling of superiority) as spoiled U.S citizens pasted on their chest to other countries. The old saying "when in Rome, do as the Romans do" goes along way. Common sense plays a large part too. If you don't know ask somebody who knows such as an Anthony or David or a local such as a friend when it comes to personal endeavors or anything else for that matter. It may not be what you want to hear, but it's more that what you knew. We are visitors and ignorant visitors make our travels difficult sometime. We have to try and explain your ignorance. PS: Anthony I think some people may be referring to the personal differences you were having, not the practical and commen sense info i.e the positive vs negative.

Anonymous said...

Anthony will you please supply us with a name and discription of the BUGGARON?

dctim said...

two rules i always follow:

rule # one: always make sure you have established terms of the "deal" before you get to the hotel.

rule number 2: see rule number one

Monaga said...

The reason I´m not going to provide his name or description is that I don´t know who is at fault here. So, I will give him the benefit of the doubt. If another instance comes up I will reveal his identity.

Anonymous said...

I wonder if anyone knows of true love ever happening between a Dominican man and an American Man in Santo Domingo?

Do any of these Santo Domingo guys who mess with guys ever end up in a long term monogamous relationship with any ex-pats living in the DR?

Is it the culture or just homophobia that deter them from entering into a loving gay relationship?

Anthony since you live there and have access to the other Americans and ex-pats there maybe you can do some research and let us know if it is possible or if we are just wasting our time and should be happy with one night stands.

From Florida

Anonymous said...

True love? Well, I've been in a relationship with a Dominican guy for the past 6 years, but we are not exactly what you would call Romeo and Juliette! You will probably not find 'true love' material in any of the bars/discos frequented by commercial trade. So you will have to look elsewhere. I met my bf through a mutual acquaintance and so far it has worked out for us. Good luck and happy hunting!
From Puerto Rico,